Reference 2009-Present

While bitten by the blogging bug I'm going to add one more post. Actually, I'm doing this because it's almost 3pm and my kids are still asleep so I have some time to myself. I'm going to write about my wife because I don't think many people have heard my side of our relationship and I can brag about her accomplishments for her. Lets face it, we all know that people who talk about their own accomplishments are narcissistic d-bags that toot their own horn one too many times. Plus, I'm pretty quiet and reserved and up until now readers are probably like, "what?! Jessa has a husband, I've heard of him but never seen him or knew he really existed." Well, these questions can be answered because I'm only slightly overshadowed by my social pariah of a wife. Plus, I'm like a dog who only comes out of kennel when someone says the word "frisbee."

But joking aside (joking not fully aside) if you know Jessa, and I'd like to believe I kind of know her now after six years of being together, then you know she is the real deal. I'm writing this now because of her nose to the grindstone tenacious work ethic. Jessa knows how to hustle. She has been presented with a fantastic opportunity that she earned by working her butt off. Not only that but an opportunity that she feels will make a difference in other peoples' lives. 

I met Jessa almost six years ago when she helped push my brother's car out of a snowy ditch. Even then she was making a difference in two people's lives, namely, mine and my hard of hearing brother. To make a long story short I fell in love with an incredible woman and birth mother. Little did I know that being a birth mother was/is as much a part of her as being human. It is characteristic that makes up Jessa's personality. Jessa is probably the most genuinely caring and giving person I have ever met. I'm not kidding when I write this, If Jessa could she would adopt every baby or child in foster care. Countless times when I have come home from school or work there has been a new animal that she found without an owner. I have made her get rid of the animal every time but if I'm to be honest with myself, I really do love that about her. She wants everyone to have a loving home. Even the most pathetic, sickly, and ugliest of Gods four legged creatures to ever walk the face of the earth deserve a loving home. Jessa and I have also had people live with us for most of our marriage. I'm not talking about our kids, I'm talking about vagrant wanderers that were competent enough to put an add on craigslist (that was a joke). Our doors have been open for tenants since 2009. She is always willing to help someone out and loves to do it.

Jessa jokes with me that I am a better stay at home parent that she is but it's not true. Yes, I am very much a helicopter parent and am borderline obsessive compulsive about cleanliness but she is a fantastic mother to our children. Jessa loves to play with our kids and probably buys them a toy most every time they go to the store because she can't say "no". I can't really say it either, kids just have that effect on parents. Jessa's list of accomplishments are vast, five years military service, birth mother, mother of two, advocate of open adoption, plethora of business ventures, and the greatest accomplishment of all, she married one cynical sarcastic individual. 

I just wanted to post this because I'm very proud of your accomplishments and you deserve this new job. You earned it and worked your butt off for it. I don't really know if people think about gender rolls often but I'm comfortable being a stay at home dad for the next little while. I still have more schooling to finish up and you sacrificed a lot by dropping out of college to raise our kids so that I could finish my degree. Even that didn't stop you from chasing your passions with adoption advocacy. So congrats Jessa and thanks for being patient with me, I know this past year was a tough one for you. Cheers, here's to sunny souther California and the next adventure that awaits. All my love!